I recently trotted my two granddaughters off to the
discount theater to see How to Train Your Dragon 2. It was a hot, Saturday
afternoon and the place was packed. In order to sit together we were forced to take
a front row seat. One thing about this
vantage point is you feel like you’re rubbing noses with the screen (which, if
I had sneezed, I would’ve been.) But it was great fun.
Having grandchildren (or children) gives you the
opportunity to repeat the fun stuff you enjoyed as a kid without having other
people judge you for spending the afternoon playing with Play Doh or watching
an animated picture.
I admit it, dragons intrigue me. I’m not sure why. I’m
a big fan of Harry Potter movies and mystical stories. Dragons are generally
portrayed as villains, but in How to Train Your Dragon 1 and 2 we see humans
and dragons working together. Of course
there is a lot of prejudice to overcome, but it finally happens. I apologize if
this was a spoiler for any of you, but most Hollywood plots are pretty
predictable and secondary to the spectacle and munching of popcorn.
I didn’t think too much about the movie and any
underlying messages at first, but then I received an assignment to write an
article on meditation for Beauty Link magazine (I’ll post a link when the
article comes out.) I’m Buddhist and I chant the words Nam Myoho Renge Kyo
every morning and evening. Occasionally I meditate as well, but I have to admit
my knowledge on the effects of meditation (or chanting) and the brain is
minimal.
Imagine my surprise to learn that meditation and
other calming techniques can increase your happy serotonin supply, decrease the
nasty cortisol levels, lower your blood pressure and even assist your healing
power on a cellular level. Another thing I learned is when we get a jolt of
anger, frustration, annoyance etc. a message is sent to the amygdala, a
walnut-sized part of our brain that is responsible for our flight or fright response. If
left unchecked, our fear-response is activated.
Our reactions may vary a little depending on our
personality, but it is rarely a good scenario. We might feel the urge to fight,
take flight, yell, hold our breath, climb a tree, or any number of fear-based
reactions. When the danger is real this could be a good thing for self
preservation. But most of the time the anger or stress is more an annoyance (rush
hour traffic, an approaching deadline, a demanding boss) than a real,
life-threatening event.
The good news is there is a 30-second delay from the
time the response is noticed before the amygdala yells, “suppress the serotonin
and release the cortisol!” It’s like turning off all the water faucets and then
igniting an internal fire. Fortunately during this 30 seconds you can take deep
breaths and practice a mini-meditation, chant, or practice another relaxation technique
to help restore order to your system.
Of course this little scenario made me think each
dramatic event in our lives gives us the opportunity to be a hero. In most
cases we can be kind to our system and psyche and cool our internal flames
before it becomes a massive wild fire that torments our bodies and any innocent
bystanders. In the rare cases where we
need our fear to protect ourselves and the world, we can let it kick in, jump
on our dragon (and I think Amygdala is a good name for a dragon) and we can take
up the good fight.
Both scenarios have a place in our lives. But I
think it’s safe to say that our “call to arms” is not as necessary as our amygdala
would have us believe.
During my post-movie discussion with my
granddaughters I asked six-year-old Rosannah what her favorite part of the
movie was. She liked the part when the kids and dragons fought the bad guys and
won. Briannah, age 5, preferred the beginning of the movie when everything was
calm and pleasant. My favorite part was when the heroes had to ride the only dragons that were available – the baby dragons. Unlike the adult flying
lizards who followed the directive of the alpha beast – the baby dragons didn’t
listen to anyone. And somehow I found that very refreshing.
We can do the same. We are the alphas of our own minds. We can fly
off the handle when we are in grave danger, or we can save our energy, relax by
the pool, and live to save the world another day.