What Happened to Prunes?

 I‘m a creature of habit – particularly at breakfast. Unlike lunch and dinner where I don’t want to eat the same thing two days in a row, I’m more than happy to eat the same thing for breakfast EVERY DAY. 

But one day things changed. My younger sister, Tina, was over when I was eating my breakfast. She laughed at my prunes. She wasn’t the first person to make fun of the wrinkled fruit. My daughter, Brittany, thought it was quite funny that prunes resembled the desired after-effect that eating the fruit was supposed to evoke. I could take the gentle ribbing from my child, but my sister’s laughter at the prunes (and the connotation that it was something “old” people ate) was too much for me. 

I stopped eating prunes. 

I recently had an appendectomy. Although my surgeon didn’t know why my appendix became inflamed, or why it would happen to someone with a healthy diet, I decided to take steps to keep things “moving”.

I made a commitment to drink more water, exercise more often, and eat prunes again. 

The problem is I couldn’t find prunes in the store. I looked and looked and looked. However, my observant and more detailed-oriented spouse, CB, found the bagged fruit and plopped them in our Costco cart. I looked at the bag. It was labeled “sun sweet plums”.

All those years I was basing my search on the name “prunes” and bags of “plums” did not compute.  

Now, I’m not stupid. I know prunes are dried plums. As a public relations and marketing professional I can understand the name change. Prunes have a bad image. The word “prune” can mean “to make a facial expression exhibiting ill temper or disgust.”  People refer to old people, or other old things, as shriveled up old prunes. Plus people eat prunes when they are constipated. That is funny too (unless it happens to you and then it is a painfully unpleasant experience). 

Plums, on the other hand, have a good reputation. People use the expression “plum” for referring to  something of a superior or desireable kind, such as a financial bonus or "plum" position. Let’s not forget the nursery rhyme about little Jack Horner.

Little Jack Horner
Sat in the corner,
Eating a Christmas pie;
He put in his thumb,
And pulled out a plum,
And said 'What a good boy am I!'[1]

Now the poem is supposedly a satire with political overtones, but when I recited that nursery rhyme as a tot, no one explained that to me. All I knew is Jack stuck his grimy thumb in a pie, snagged a plum, and thought he pulled off some sort of heroic feat. Centuries later it left another subliminal message.  Plums are good. Prunes are bad. 

However, I must concede, prunes are funny. I remember back in 1967 I was watching television with my little brother, Terry. A commercial about prunes came on the air. It made us both laugh. It’s worth watching.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eRDLaSG6csA

But it also made me think. This ad was not only humorous; it was a great marketing campaign. Even as a grade-school-er, I was inspired by it. I thought that if my desire to be a sitcom writer didn’t pan out, I could make my way in society by making fun of fruit and vegetables. Who knew it would turn into a career in public relations and marketing? 

But the story of the prunes took an unexpected turn for me. Rather than having food engineers get rid of the “wrinkles” as they promised in that funny commercial, the marketing folks decided to just change the name.  Shakespeare may have had Juliet say, "What's in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet." And that may be true. But when you change a bag of prunes to a bag of plums, you might confuse a few folks who are looking for prunes to repair their internal plumbing.

Not one to hold a grudge about the name change, I have decided to poke fun of things with a poem of my own.

My gut was full,

intestines stuck.

I looked for prunes

but no such luck.

The name had changed from prune to plum.

I saw it not, gee I feel dumb.

A lesson learned, I do implore,

“read the labels at the store”.

Both prunes and plums will help you go.

But if not careful you may not know

that a rose by another name might smell as sweet

Or be ignored and spell defeat.

---

[1] Opie and P. Opie, The Oxford Dictionary of Nursery Rhymes (Oxford: Oxford University Press, 1951, 2nd edn., 1997), pp. 234–7.

What is the RX for Happiness for Healthcare Providers?

 

In honor of our healthcare providers I am posting an article I wrote a few years ago on how nurses can reduce negativity in trying times. This was written prior to COVID-19 and is even more true today than ever.  I hope you enjoy it and feel free to share it with others. 

For everyday tips on how to reduce negativity please check out my book, Erase Negativity and Embrace the Magic Within. It's available in paperback on Amazon and the e-book is available on smashwords.com. 

Nurses begin their shifts knowing they will face obstacles. They understand the dangers, so they take proper precautions. For example, diligent handwashing prevents the spread of infection; proper lifting techniques can prevent injury. But "dangers" also lurk when humans interact. Therefore, classes on improving communication are a mainstay in hospitals to prevent verbal disasters. However, one of the most pernicious afflictions nurses face is an internal one - battling negativity. Enormous workloads, shrinking staffs and the fear of making a life-threatening mistake are all contributing factors to stress, which can lead to pessimism. But having good justification for negativity does not improve the situation. Fortunately, there are a few tips to create a happier work environment. However the cure is more like physical therapy than penicillin. Negativity is a learned habit. Erasing a gloomy outlook and replacing it with a positive alternative is a skill set nurses must cultivate. Creating a Pleasant Workplace Creating a pleasant workplace by modifying the behavior of others would be ideal. Unfortunately, that course of action rarely works. If nurses want to reduce negativity at work, the process begins with them. Once anti-negativity skills are mastered, nurses can serve as role models for others, which can create a surge of cheerfulness that ripples throughout the hospital or office. The first steps to combat negativity are: 1. Recognize negativity has creeped its way into your life and is holding your happiness hostage; 2. Erase negative thoughts, speech and actions and replace them with more empowering and productive alternatives; and 3. Smile every day, even (and especially) when you do not want to. Lest you think you only churn out happy musings, consider this statistic: the average person has 40,000-65,000 thoughts a day and a whopping 95 percent of those thoughts are negative. The good news is, even a little improvement can have lasting effects. After recognizing pessimistic ponderings lurk within, the next step is to erase the undesirable thoughts with a positive alternative. An example might be about illness. Rather than saying, "I don't want to get sick," say "I enjoy vibrant health." By repeating the positive message, eventually your brain will respond to the kinder choice and your immune system will be strengthened. There is evidence that not only do optimistic people enjoy better health, when they do get exposed to maladies such as the common cold, their bodies produce more antibodies. Nasty speech directed at others can be replaced with a simple, "bless you." If you can bless people when they sneeze and spray germs, the same method can be used for poisonous words. A whispered "bless you" can ward off the eruption of a nasty remark. Many negative thoughts, speech and actions are automatic. To short circuit the default response, it helps to take a deep breath and imagine a serene setting before responding in an unkind way. Related Content ·         The Pleasure Principle ·          ·         Creating Personal Happiness Smiling is also a strong anecdote to grouchiness. It may sound simplistic, but studies have shown that a cornucopia of chemical reactions occur when a person smiles, whether or not the smile is sincere.2 The goal is to present an authentic grin, but if you have to fake it until you make it, the results can be surprisingly effective. Try smiling at your reflection in the mirror for one full minute before leaving the house. This works even when you don't want to smile because the irony of grinning when you're feeling crabby is usually enough to make even a curmudgeon snicker. Avoiding Negativity Something that is not worth smiling about is gossip. Lisa Hinojosa, RN, a nurse at Boulder Community Hospital in Boulder, CO, remarked that one of the most toxic forms of negativity is feeding the rumor mill. "Gossip is a huge problem at work because the hospital is like a little town where everyone knows everyone else," said Hinojosa. "In addition to ruining reputations it is a distraction from our main goal, working as a team to take care of the patient. "Malicious speech takes its toll. It is destructive and a major roadblock to a positive, joyful, fun and fulfilling experience at work. Even when everyone is getting along, if one negative or critical person walks in, the positive atmosphere can instantly turn sour. One person's negativity can ignite a chain reaction. Before you know it, even those who rarely gossip can get sucked in and agree with, and even add to the critical chatter. From there it spreads and fuels the fire of dissention - often beyond repair." Visit Our Nursing Specialty Websites! ·         LPN ·         Emergency Department ·         Management /Faculty ·         Critical Care ·         Med/Surg One method to counteract gossip is to do what Hinojosa said she does - walk away. Gossip needs a friendly ear and mouth to spread. A braver tactic is to confront the gossiper and compassionately suggest a kinder topic. If gossiping is one of your weaknesses, try asking yourself a couple of questions before engaging in the verbal negativity: ·  Is what I'm about to say hurtful in any way? ·  What is my motivation for saying this? ·  Is what I'm about to say coming from a place of love and respect, or a place of anger and cruelty By asking yourself a few questions before you speak you can save yourself, and others, a lot of pain and grief. That is not to say that silence is always golden, particularly when it comes to patient care. "One of the most common issues that leads to negativity in the workplace is feeling understaffed, which can also lead to increased fatigue in staff members," said Linda McFarland, RN, a nurse at Angels Care Home Health in Cottonwood, AZ. "Most facilities use a staffing model to identify how many nurses should cover the number of patients in a given area. What these models do not take into account on a regular basis is the acuity of the patient." In cases where patients are at risk, it is a nurse's duty to speak up. McFarland said organizations such as the American Nursing Association have been encouraging nurses to voice their concerns regarding patient safety, nurse fatigue, as well as working with hospital staff to ensure there are enough nurses on the floor to properly address the needs of all the patients - particularly those who need more time-intensive care. According to the ANA website, "the national nursing organization advocates for the Registered Nurse Safe Staffing Act of 2010 (S. 3491/ H.R. 5527) that would hold hospitals accountable for the development and implementation of unit-by-unit staffing plans that ensure appropriate nurse staffing levels for quality patient care." While there is no fail proof method to bring up patient safety concerns without some backlash, it is important to communicate with compassion and focus on a solution, rather than assigning blame, which creates further conflict. There is no doubt nurses have a tough job. Patients are sick and in pain, some cranky physicians yell when nurses are forced to call them in the middle of the night, and life and death decisions need to be made every day. By using a few tips to reduce negativity on an ongoing basis, nurses can inject a little more optimism into the workplace, as well as make positive steps toward a happier, healthier life and career. References 1. Why optimists enjoy better health. (May 2008). Harvard Health Publications. Retrieved Feb. 25, 2011 from the World Wide Web, http://www.health.harvard.edu/press_releases/why-optimists-enjoy-better-health. 2. Dal Cero, M.A. (Apri 16, 2009). What a smile can do. Helium Psychology. Retrieved Feb. 25, 2011, from the World Wide Web, http://www.helium.com/items/1418154-what-a-smile-can-do. Sally Marks is a motivational coach, speaker and the co-author of the self-improvement book, Erase Negativity and Embrace the Magic Within. You can visit her website at http://www.erasenegativity.com/ or read her humorous blog at http://www.erasenegativity.blogspot.com/

 

Holiday Kindness

It seems everyone likes a holiday classic this time of year, so here's one from a blog I wrote a few years ago.

We recently moved back to Arizona after spending nearly a year in Port Angeles, WA. On the trip back we snuck in front of a snow storm and skated through Los Angeles before a small earth quake hit. I always say a few extra prayers whenever I travel. I also concentrate on positive thoughts as much as possible and try to envision a protective shield of white light around the vehicle we are driving.

Sometimes it can be challenging to focus on positive events, especially when on the road. When folks are enclosed in the anonymity of their own cars and trucks, it seems it is easier to leave their brain and courtesy on their doorstep.

While it may SEEM true that crazy drivers outnumber their safe and courteous counterparts, it is merely an illusion. The problem is we are geared to dwell on the negative and ignore the happy and uneventful. We curse the driver who cuts us off, but quickly forget the kind folks who wave us into their lane ahead of them or slow down or change lanes to allow us to merge onto the freeway.

Years ago I remember a coworker, Don Powell, gave me his insights into merging safely on the road. He said when he was barreling down the street, if a driver turned on their turn signal and made eye contact in a tacit request to enter his lane, he always waved them on. If they tried to force their way in, he was not as kind.

I have found the same thing is true in life. When we show courtesy and kindness, we increase the chances someone will do the same for us and others. I like to do this in the grocery store. If I’m standing in line and I see someone with only a couple of items, I always allow them to go ahead of me. I do the same thing when someone has a cranky baby or toddler. That is a courtesy to everyone within sight, hearing or scent of the unhappy tot.

Recently we attended a pre-holiday Christmas event. CB’s family does a white elephant Christmas exchange. While one or two items are decent gifts, most are silly things such as a screaming monkey, a whoopee cushion or a beat-up hat that comes back year after year with added decorations that depict the former owner’s interests or vocation.

CB’s sister, Lisa, hosts this annual event. Most of the siblings are grandparents now. This year I asked if I could bring my two granddaughters, Rosannah (Zanna) age 5 and Briannah (Bree) age 3. They would be joining our great nieces and nephews that include: Xander, age 1, Hunter, 3, Meeka, 6, Zeke, 7, Annabelle, 9 and Kylie, 10.

Both Zanna and Bree remembered Hunter from an earlier gathering (he’s the little boy who not only OWNS a lot of toy cars, he SHARES them as well.) However, Meeka, who lives out of town, seemed a little nervous by this gathering of noisy relatives. I whispered to Zanna to try to make friends with her step cousin.

My affable granddaughter quickly complied with my request. Meeka seemed a bit apprehensive at first, but then told Rosannah and Briannah they could sit next to her if they wanted to do so. Before you know it they were fast friends.

We can learn a lot about this little interaction. Folks may seem unkind, but really they might be too shy or nervous to make the first overture toward a friendly encounter. While it is always a possibility that a kind gesture could be scorned, more often than not, it will be met with relief and gratitude.

The holiday season is a perfect time to initiate kindness. Also, I hope you can take a moment to sing some of your favorite Christmas carols. I like this one because even if you forget the lyrics, you can belt out the two sounds “fa” and “la” and sing with the best of them. To make things easier, here are the lyrics to the old Welch tune, Deck the Halls.

Deck the halls with boughs of holly,
Fa la la la la, la la la la.
Tis the season to be jolly,
Fa la la la la, la la la la. 

 Don we now our gay apparel,
Fa la la, la la la, la la la.
Troll the ancient Yule tide carol,
Fa la la la la, la la la la. 

 See the blazing Yule before us,
Fa la la la la, la la la la.
Strike the harp and join the chorus.
Fa la la la la, la la la la.

Follow me in merry measure,
Fa la la la la, la la la la.
While I tell of Yule tide treasure,
Fa la la la la, la la la la. 

 Fast away the old year passes,
Fa la la la la, la la la la.
Hail the new, ye lads and lasses,
Fa la la la la, la la la la.

Sing we joyous, all together,
Fa la la la la, la la la la.
Heedless of the wind and weather,
Fa la la la la, la la la la. 

I haven't promoted my book Erase Negativity and Embrace the Magic Within for a while, but I know this can be a challenging time for folks. If you know someone who could use some advice on erasing negativity, please contact me at comicsall@gmail.com. I ordered a few extra copies of my book  and will be selling them for $10 each plus shipping. Happy holidays.

A Movie Debut

Ever since I was a little kid I dreamed of making movies. Mostly I just wanted to write the stories. As an adult I have written screenplays, one-act plays, teleplays and more.

While no one has asked me to squish my hand and foot prints into cement for the world to behold outside of Grauman's Chinese Theater,  I did complete a video for work. I hope you like it. Please feel free to share it with friends.

https://spark.adobe.com/video/3gFc0MDQqnSYU/

Mark Your Calendar for Free Outdoor Concerts in October

     I love music. There is something pretty awesome about listening to a live band on a nice autumn evening. And the only thing better than an outdoor concert is a FREE outdoor concert. That is why I'm posting this blog. Be sure to mark your calendars for this great music series.

     Fall will once again be a festive time at the Village at Arrowhead Shopping Center. Music at the Village, a free outdoor concert series, returns on Fridays on Oct. 6^th, 13^th, 20^th, and 27^th from 6 to 8 p.m. at the Village at Arrowhead Shopping Center, 20050 N. 67^th Ave. in Glendale.

    The live music will kick off with the Classic Example on Oct. 6^th, followed by the McFadden Brothers & Victoria on Oct. 13^th, Lindy’s Groove will perform on Oct. 20^th and Classic Example will complete the series on Oct. 27^th. Spectators are invited to show up in costume for the Oct. 27^th concert.  All music will be performed on the patio of AJ’s Fine Foods.  Seating is limited and attendees are encouraged to arrive early and bring a yard chair.

     AJ’s will offer free wine tasting inside the store from 3 to 6 p.m. each Friday before the concerts begin, and there will also be flash sales throughout the evening. A raffle will also be held and proceeds will benefit the Arizona Arthritis Foundation.

     “October in is a perfect time to enjoy a free outdoor concert in the Valley,” said Mary and Karen Walker, president of Power Promotions and event coordinator for the Village at Arrowhead Shopping Center.  “This family-friendly activity is a great way to listen to music, as well as enjoy the many amenities that are available to those who visit this beautiful shopping center.”
     The Village at Arrowhead offers specialty shops that provide the ultimate shopping experience with distinctive fashion, home furnishings, restaurants and personal services in one of the most architecturally unique and aesthetically pleasing shopping centers around.

                For more information contact Marks Public Relations at 480-664-3004.

Remembering my dad on Father's Day

I’ve been thinking about my dad lately. Father’s Day is approaching and even though my pop died more than 20 years ago, I still think about what kind of gift he might like to have for Father’s Day.

Dad had a weird sense of humor and wasn’t particularly helpful when we asked him for gift suggestions. Each year it was the same.

Me: “Dad, what do you want for Father’s Day?”

Dad: “A new butt. Mine’s cracked.”

My dad is in the center wearing sunglasses. This  picture was taken 

at a Cub's game  at Wrigley Field in 1960.

This was the same response for Christmas, birthdays and other gift-giving occasions. I don’t know which was sillier, his corny response or the fact that my siblings and I continued to ask the same question.

That is not to say that we didn’t come up with some good gifts over the years. My brothers Terry and Dennis took him to ball games, my older sister, Diane, bought tickets so he and mom could go out to a show, my sister, Tina’s fiancé bought him a new television and VCR (back when the technology was new.)  My sister-in-law, Joanie, always bought him a new pair of slippers. Dad wore slippers all the time so he needed replacements on a regular basis.

However, the gift that I think he enjoyed the most was a nutcracker my spouse, John, and I bought him. It wasn’t any ole nutcracker. This little marvel held the nut in place and a weight (released from a rubber-band-type launcher) cracked the pecans perfectly in half. 

My dad loved nuts and we had three pecan trees in the yard. Having grown up in the heart of Chicago but probably being a country boy at heart, my dad loved it that he could go outside, gather nuts and pick fruit (especially citrus) and make something from scratch. Even during his years of dementia he never tired of making fresh squeezed lemonade or cracking a bowl full of pecans. 

What made this gift special is it was directly related to his passion. Now cracking nuts is not MY passion, but it was something my dad loved to do. So rather than buy him Old Spice or another useless tie, we hit the mark with the nut cracker that year.

But now that my dad is gone, I still think of how I might have done things differently.  What my father (and I think most fathers) want is to spend quality time with their children. As we get older we have the money to purchase bigger and better things, but finding the time to spend the day with dad is sometimes more difficult than cracking a nut without a nut cracker.  It makes me think of the Harry Chapin song, “Cats in the Cradle” song chronicling the busy life of a father and son.

It can be difficult to find the time to spend an entire evening or afternoon with dad, but there are options - even for those of us who are time challenged. Why not ask dad to come and join you for a simple errand? It could be a trip to the post office, a walk to the store, or you could even ask your pop to ride shot gun while you pick up the kids from school?

I miss my dad, but when I think of the corny things he used to say, it still makes me smile. The other day I was helping my granddaughter with her toilet training. She goes to preschool and she is obsessed with naming things.  She pointed to her butt and said, “What’s my butt’s name?” I told her “Briannah’s butt.” If she would have said “I want a new one, mine’s cracked” I would know that my dad had reincarnated back into our lives again.

Briannah is the ghost on the left and her sister, Rosannah, is on the right.

Of course she didn’t say that, but when she smiled at her question (she knew she was being funny) I couldn’t help but think a new nut was born.  And with her budding sense of humor it would seem the fruit doesn’t fall far from the tree.

If you’re interested in a unique gift for your dad, consider buying a copy of my book, Erase Negativity and Embrace the Magic Within. You can buy it through Amazon, Smashwords or by contacting me through this blog. For more information about the book go to

https://www.prlog.org/12646426-unique-fathers-day-gift-offers-help-for-grouchy-dads.html