This week's words of wisdom come in the form of a guest post by Nettie Gray. I hope you enjoy it.
Have you ever felt so worried about the future that you no longer find happiness in today?
You’re too bent trying to solve issues that are yet to arise.
There’s nothing wrong being considerate about what lies ahead, but to let ourselves be consumed by things that are yet to happen is harmful. It only makes the future more terrifying.
Practicing mindfulness means paying attention to the present moment. Doing this helps alleviate stress, promote happiness and positivity.
Let us talk about few ways how you can be more mindful each day.
Focus on routinary activities.
Has typical daily activities such as taking a shower, brushing your teeth or washing dishes ever appeared interesting to you?
If you strive to be more mindful, then these things can turn out enjoyable too.
Brush your teeth in front of the mirror and observe the stroke of the brush every time you push your arms up and down, then sideways. Listen to the sound of the brush against your teeth.
When taking a shower, meanwhile, feel the first drops of water falling on your skin. Listen as well to its sound. Indulge in the sweet smell of your shampoo and soap. Play with soap suds forming on your skin while you’re gently scrubbing.
Observe the plates and glasses you’re washing and take delight seeing it looking like new again. Enjoy the clean scent afterward.
Be mindful when waiting.
You arrive at a fastfood chain and notice the long queue.
In the fast-paced world we’re living in, waiting is somewhat a luxury. Being stuck in one place for a long period can easily annoy or piss off a person. But truth is, it depends how you look into the situation. You have a choice whether to let it get on your nerves, or use the opportunity instead to bring peace into your mind.
Will you tap your foot on the floor, look into your watch every time, cross your arms and frown to everyone whose eyes meet yours? Or will you be mindful of your reaction when the line moves forward or when you check your phone or talk to the stranger next to you?
Learn to accept.
Stop being a worrier. If you will focus your mind to the present then the future is likely to turn out good for you. Our actions work in a domino effect.
Think about what’s making you worry.
Is it because your salary today isn't enough to raise your own family in the future? Don’t you think by the time you settle down, then your career experience must have improved a lot, and hence your income might have already increased as well?
Accept the situation you’re in right now. Many others are probably enduring a tougher circumstance. Yours cannot be the worst.
Be extra considerate and patient when commuting.
You’ve hit the rush hour yet again.
There you are, standing in a bus exhausted from work, jealous of those comfortably sitting, reading a book or taking a nap, trying hard not to feel annoyed by those talking too loud or getting off the bus hitting your shoulders or stepping on your feet.
And you say to yourself, “Thought I could start to write my papers within an hour, and turn it in earlier.”
Like being stuck in a long queue, commuting also tests your patience. Resist the urge to unleash rage or scream out loud. Be mindful of your reactions. Think of the possible consequences first before doing anything.
Nettie Gray finds dishwashing relaxing. After working on the household chore, she feels as though her mind had been as well cleared.